My mom finally had the courage to file for divorce, which in the beginning I think was more to try and manipulate my dad more into staying with her. Then in the end it backfired on her. She decided to take a bunch of pills one night. She said she wanted to sleep. My brother was the one who had to take care of his own mother and take her to the hospital. They treated her and had an evaluation done. She was released. She talked about moving to Montana, to get away from all the drama here. I was always compassionate to what she was going through and encouraged her to do whatever she thought would be best for her to do. I was always understanding of her situation which she will say I wasn't. She moved to Montana in June of 2011. My relationship with my dad only started to grow from that point. He made way more effort than in the past and it was so nice to see the change. I was nervous about how active he would be in the kids lives after the divorce. He was devastated at first, as anyone would be after being married for 30 years. He never ever bad mouthed my mother to me and always encouraged our relationship. My mom on the other hand, took a different approach.
We had sat with my dad and asked him about his new relationship. We eventually, after about 6 months or longer after my mom moved, decided to meet my dads girlfriend. He never once pressured us into it or pushed the issue. My younger sister and I, sat both my mom and my older sister down and had a talk about all of this. We were honest about with them about our plans to meet her and have her around and they said they didn't agree but we left it at that. There was no argument or harsh words. Nobody ever said please don't or if you do, our relationship is ruined. Since it went well, we decided to proceed in meeting her. It was definitely awkward and a hard adjustment. But she has always been very respectful and wonderful with my children! My mom of course, was not pleased with the idea of this at all. She would call after knowing we were with my dad and talk to me. Then immediately after talking with me, she would call my dad and lie, lie, lie. She would accuse my dad of forcing his "whore" into our lives and tell him we didn't like her and didn't want her around. She would also send my younger sister and I harassing text messages saying terrible things and calling us back stabbers. She used us in anyway she could to try and cause problems for my dad and with my relationship with him. She would lie to people about me and she would lie to me. Most of the time I knew she was lying to begin with and she would just continue it, as if it was just second nature for her.
It got to the point where I told her, I will no longer speak to you about my dad or his girlfriend. Not for any reason, they don't need brought up to me. And I especially asked her to stop lying about me. It didn't matter what I said, she just continued doing what she wanted to do. Her and my sister continually sent her facebook messages and text messages verbally harassing her and threatening her, along with my dad. It was to the point that her and my sister were honestly nothing but drama and were bringing me down. My younger sister and I were so sick of being treated like this by our own mother, but knew she was going through a hard time, so we still stood by her side and supported her. Then, just when we think our family dysfunction is at its highest, I find out some news. Some news that is beyond disturbing, disgusting, horrific, sickening, frightening, angering and something I will probably never come to terms with or understand...
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